10 Things Unhappy People Have in Common


By Sara Novak, Planet Green

We all want to be happy in some way or another. We strive each day to find the path of happiness whatever we think it is. But some of us come up way short. Some of us cant seem to find that shining beacon of happiness at the end of the tunnel.

In a survey done by Planet Green, they found that most unhappy people tend to have a few things in common:

1. They Hate Their Jobs 

You spend eight hours, sometimes much more at work. If you hate your job you can’t help but hate your life because you’re spending 40 out of the 168 hours in a week doing something you can’t stand. What’s worse, we often take our anger from work home with us, bringing that disgruntled attitude into our homes. I’m not saying go out and quit your job tomorrow. Instead, take an aerial view of your life. Why don’t you love your job? What’s missing? Is it the career itself? Is it your boss or your company? What’s your passion? What are you good at? Take time to answer these questions and then make a plan to move towards change, however long it takes.

2. They’re Constantly Worried About Money 

Studies have proven that being rich won’t make us any happier. A Princeton University study showed that people needed an annual income of $75,000 per year per household and no more to be happy. Above that amount, more cash has no effect on “emotional well-being.” What this really means is that you need to be able to comfortably pay bills and save without worrying about finances. On the other hand, financial uncertainty does make us unhappy so this is another chance for evaluation. Are you overspending? What can you downsize? How can you minimize your life so that you can afford it? This is in no way an easy question, but it’s part of the journey.

3. They Don’t Have Any Active Hobbies 

Happiness is linked to activity level. You have to move to feel good. What about yoga, hiking, swimming, surfing, biking, or running? Happiness is also linked to doing what you love so find active hobbies that make you happy and get to it.

4. They Have Wandering Minds 

According to Science News, “[a] wandering mind often stumbles downhill emotionally. People spend nearly half their waking lives thinking about stuff other than what they’re actually doing, and these imaginary rambles frequently feel bad, according to a new study.” The more you can focus on what you’re doing when you’re doing it, the happier you are. Meditation allows you to learn to focus on the present moment so you can actually live the life you’ve been given.

5. They Commute a Long Distance 

A long commute can take a toll on your life and after a while it can really bring you down. How much of your life are you losing in commute? It’s hard on a relationship as well. A recent Swedish study found that divorce rates were higher the longer the commute.

6. They Think “Stuff” Will Make Them Happy 

Unhappy people are constantly trying to fill the void by consuming, whether it be alcohol, food, or shopping. But the problem is happiness can’t be consumed, it’s cultivated from within. Meeting desires only brings fleeting happiness.

7. They’re Lonely 

Cultivating relationships is important for both your health and your happiness. And that doesn’t just mean how good you are at social networking. Unfortunately nowadays more than a few of us view our laptop as our very best friend. Single or not, married or not, it’s important to always strive both to make friends and to keep them while also keeping close ties to family.

8. They Don’t Like Their Town 

So often we feel stuck in our lives. We live in a town that we no longer love and aren’t sure how to feel better about the situation. This is another opportunity to take a step back and ask why you feel the way you do. Is it the town or is it you? Get the newspaper and look into new events, volunteer some place new, or, well, move. Who says you have to live in the same place your whole life? I certainly haven’t. I’ve already tried out Charlottesville, Athens, Washington DC, Florence, Charleston, and Columbia and I’m just getting started.

9. They Have No Pets 

This is not saying you need to own a pet to be happy, but its just saying that those people that have pets have a love and responsibility outside of themselves that gives them a "purpose". Pets serve as support and provide unconditional love that we grow to depend on but at the same time, they don’t disrupt other human relationships. If you’re considering pet ownership, adopt a pet in need from a shelter or from a friend and follow this guide to responsible pet ownership.- (http://www.treehugger.com/htgg/how-to-go-green-pets.html)

10. They Don’t Like Themselves 

We make ourselves happy by the way we view life and by learning to enjoy the moment. We make ourselves happy by the way we view ourselves. By opening our hearts we find peace but that peace has to first start off with you. If you dislike yourself, you can never be happy so give yourself a break. Learn to love yourself, you deserve it!

Source: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/10-things-unhappy-people-have-in-common-2.html#ixzz1kLjNZ04y
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Anonymous commented on 27-Jan-2012 04:22 PM1 out of 5 stars
These are symptoms of being an unhappy person, it doesn't explain why they are unhappy.
Anonymous commented on 27-Jan-2012 10:25 PM5 out of 5 stars
all 10 apply to me
Anonymous commented on 28-Jan-2012 01:43 AM5 out of 5 stars
Wow a whopping seven of these are true for me! Something's gotta change!!!!!
Richard commented on 28-Jan-2012 01:53 AM5 out of 5 stars
I changed from a marriage to being single, moved from Newcastle UK to LA. Stopped being a decorator and now am studying acting. Left 2 dogs with my ex but got a puppy here. I did all this on August 27th last year. I now write every day, I am learning guitar,
I hike for an hour every day. I take supplements after watching Food Matters. My whole life has changed. I am using all the money I have to pursue this. Anyone can change their life, you just need a combination of major dissatisfaction with your current life
and the courage to stop making excuses and do it.
anonymous commented on 28-Jan-2012 02:59 AM5 out of 5 stars
#1 the secret to success is liking what you do, not doing what you like! #2If you have clothing and food and Shelter you have more them 70%of the world population #3Reach out to someone in need. #4A double minded man person is unstable in all their ways.
#5Commuting can be time spend in deflating or listening to comforting music or messages #6Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling. #7If you feel lonely when your by yourself , you're in bad company. #8Then Move. #9I know many people
without pets who are extremely happy. #10 Not liking yourself is the first step in recognizing that we need to change, and is far better then someone who has an overinflated ego that no-one wants to be around.
Anonymous commented on 31-Jan-2012 03:41 AM5 out of 5 stars
I sort of agree with one of the other Anon posters who said these are more like symtoms than root causes. Many years ago I read a book by Jon Kabat-Zinn and have since given copies of that book to family and friends as gifts. The title is "Wherever You
Go, There You Are". I've been happy wherever I have lived, but I've met many folks who are unhappy no matter where they are or what their circumstances are. Unhappy in the city will mean unhappy in the country. It's what's inside that matters. But good thoughts
in the article none the less.
Anonymous commented on 02-Feb-2012 11:13 AM5 out of 5 stars
Wow, never realized before but I think,my husband and me we are unhappy, we match a least 6 of the ten . I'll try to be happy from now on.
TETO commented on 02-Feb-2012 12:53 PM5 out of 5 stars
You choose what you are going to think about. Get some CD books, listen, think about something else by learning something new. Get Michael Jackson "Thriller" and dance / exercise to it. I do it every day. I am 90 years old. I AM HAPPY even tho I live all
alone. Get some experienced books from the library at 25ç @. Learn something, Laugh lots, Pass them on. Leave them on a bench. Ask every new person you meet, "What do you know that I don't know?" Wow, you'll get a big fat earfull to ponder. It''s my choice
and I choose to be HAPPY.
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